I really care about my guy, we’ve been together for almost a year, but he’s just not doing it for me! We used to have foreplay for, literally, hours before having sex. Now, I’m lucky if it’s 5 minutes!

I’ve tried the whole guiding by example thing–like showing him what I like, moaning like a porn star when he does something I enjoy…but I just feel like he’s not really trying. I often feel like he doesn’t care that he’s not getting me off.

The biggest problem is that if I try to talk to him about what I need he gets really sensitive about it. I don’t want him to feel like I’m being critical of his skills. I don’t think that would help our sex life…but I don’t know what to do!

Any tips for getting my guy to give me what I need with making him feel bad?