My sister and her husband were working out this problem when they began having intimate relations. He was making an attempt before but my sister says it seems like he is no longer interested in resolving the matter. She says he said (I feel so childish right about now) that he had never had any complaints from anyone before and he doesn’t understand why it’s such a big deal to her. She is sexually frustrated and it is now seeping into the rest of their relationship.
I have given her all the tips and pointers short of shoving a cork there (lets not get too graphic) tying him to the bed and having her way with him. He is extremely conservative and things like “getting one off” before are not his cup of tea. She has also told me that foreplay can be ten minutes to an hour with no variable on presented situation. I’ve run out of ideas, she loves him and wants make it work.
She also says she has discussed the problem with him numerous times that he agrees but..nothing. Any suggestions?
I agree it’s not my problem to solve but she is my sister and I cannot turn her away. He knew when they met that she told me everything and looked to me for advice. He has even asked me for advice re: this topic before he knew I knew. I also agree it takes two to tango. I guess she really wants to teach him the steps but he’s reluctant. Thank you for the tips and she will be attending a counselor if all else fails. She also attended her first Slumber Party and got her first “toy”. Yay for her. We are very open people so yes, it is a lot of information but one can’t answer questions as acurately as possible without all the facts.
THEY (both) have brought me into the bedroom (its not like I’m a peeping Tom or a forced my way in) and if I can help, I don’t mind. It’s not a taboo subject for us. I’ve just run out of info and think there might/could be more to try before calling in the big guns.
Possibly some encouragement for him and incentive to try again. Books, videos, manuals…
He is also aware of this post (they don’t have internet access) and is ‘for it’ for more info. Though he is not actively working at it it seems as though he would but he is intimidated by the whole thing and gets defesive.
He’s told me he gets frustrated and that’s why he loses faith but also that it is a taboo subject in his family (but our trust and openness is why he fell in love with ours). Sex is seen as wrong and incorrect as well, so discussing it was out of the question.
When I speak to him I do sense…fear?
We fear the unknown. He agrees that he may not know everything b/c of his upbringing could that be an issue? That he does not know enough about sexuality and her demands paired with his PE are intimidating him?
What info do you have of cock rings? Feel free to e-mail me with more. All info will be forwarded to them.

(I don’t take a step without their permission so they both know and asked to seek more info.)