I guess asking this question on here since no one knows me makes it easier haha ok here it goes …. Well I can’t orgasm not with anyone ever I’m happily married now but even in my past I never did. I told my husband that it just “doesn’t happen” so we tried oral sex and Ive successfully gotten off twice but it’s so irritating how hard I have to concentrate and try and I don;t think he’s doing it right because my “you know” what just ends up feeling raw and irritated afterwards. He tells me to tell him what i want but it’s not that I just don’t really like it of course I don’t get off from sex or foreplay or by him using his hand it just doesn’t feel good I try to tell him softer is better the harder you do it won’t make it feel better lol. but he never slows down or goes any softer I feel like I got a battering ram behind me most of the time theres no tenderness or slow passionate kissing he doesn’t like kissing so that makes it even more awkward. anyone have any tips?
Also Masturbating is like eating a snack it only holds you over for so long. Maybe this isnt really a question but more of a venting process also one more embarrassing thing iss I don’t get turned on really during sex or before I like it but i don’t like it in that horny I wanna get off way.Oral sex makes me feel dirty and I cringe when I think about it. Don’t know if this will make any sense to anyone I’m just tired and confused and thinking I should just accept things the way they are.