As embarrassing as this question is, I desperately need advice, and any helpful tips will be greatly appreciated.

I have been married for seven years. My husband and I have a good relationship. I am still attracted to him, and he to me. We still have sex fairly frequently–the intimacy is wonderful; I enjoy the closeness, the foreplay.

My biggest problem (and one that causes me desperation) is the fact that I can no longer have an orgasm. I used to have wonderful orgasms and felt very fulfilled after sex. Now, during sex, I get very close to orgasm, and then, suddenly, the feeling is lost. I have faked my climaxes since the birth of our youngest son three years ago.

When this first happened, I told my husband, and he got very upset with me. He said it made him feel “inadequate”, made him feel that he couldn’t satisfy me. So…rather than have an argument, I have faked for three years.

Can anyone advise me on how to reach orgasm once more?