just started a new relationship and this has never happend before to me. he says he hasnt had sex in 2 years and that he is nervous thats why he doesnt stay hard, he is hard when we have foreplay and oral sex but when it comes to penetration he goes soft!
any tips on how to improve this?
thanks x
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don’t rush…
use a little alcohol to help with the nerves…
I’ve had that happen to me once when this guy who had also had not had sex in a long time and was intimidated because he said he hadn’t ever dated someone as gorgeous etc. To guys, preforming in bed is a huge part of how they define relationships in general.
How my ex and I got over this minor set back, was to take things slower and get to know one another and become more comfortable with each other. After a couple weeks, he was up and running at full speed. Just you have to give it some more time than normal, nothing wrong with that though!
Good luck!
one thing could be he is so worried (anxiety) about being able to preform, it is destroying his natural ability. You did not state your age, or if he is taking some kind of medication that could be messing him up in this category. maybe he is too freaked out to go to the Dr. and ask for help or maybe you could take him to the vitamin store they do have some stuff that could help him get past that foreplay to penetration stage. try to make it fun if he can handle that. there is a lot of herbal stuff out there now a days and some if it works (i know that for sure
) good luck
Make sure you shower before sex and make sure your breath smells good. Sometimes we think we smell ok but maybe your natural body is detectable and your man might be grossed out and does not know how to tell you. Also, shave your hair down there. Most guys do not dig a hairy area. LAST BUT NOT LEAST, do not pressure him or keep asking “are you ok? what is wrong?”
Just tell him compliments like “you are so hot baby, I get wet by just you looking at me”–Compliments like that make him feel like he does not have to work so hard to please you because he will think you are so turned on by the simple things. And that will make him relax. So just give him compliments in bed in whispery sexy ways and this should get him turned on.
1. Don’t make him wait unnecessarily. Penetrate as soon as you can, at least once and for his sake. This will help a lot to
2. remove all possible sources of stress. That’s most probably the main problem, but the best way to attack it is by trying to make him confident. If you manage to help him ejaculate in you he’ll be convinced that it’s possible, and he’ll be a lot less stressed next time.