First time sex gone wrong?

03-Apr-2010

Posted by : Marina

Me and my bf for 1 1/2 years had sex for the first time. We started off with foreplay and oral sex for bwt 1/2 an hour and I was wet and everything but he was really big and it didn’t fit in and really hurt trying to get his penis in. I’m not sure if you would say we actually had sex because he wasn’t actually in just the tip and he ended up having to take it out as it just hurt me too much so we just did oral instead. Anyway my question is what can we do next time ive heard of using lubricant but I was really wet it was just that he was too big, help please !! x
No I knew it was going to hurt but seriously it couldn’t hurt that much.

Comments (12)

R.o.W.e.N L.o.V.e.S Y.o.U said on 03-04-2010
	to much info

tina said on 03-04-2010
	Bite a stick and tell him to go for it–quickly! its gunna hurt just get it over with fast

Soulspeed said on 03-04-2010
	oh well – try again

Ruby_Red_Flippers said on 03-04-2010
	At some point, you’ve got to just grin and bear it until he gets in and thrusts in and out for a while. You’ll expand to accomodate his girth and then you won’t have the stigma and fear anymore…until you learn to relax and get over the inital pain of the ‘first time’, it will be painful and scary.

l said on 03-04-2010
	Keep trying! Eventually everything will go in fine Answer mine? ? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ajcoz4AXedzB2rQUWj3rZBfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080713064524AAnT68L

Anna P. said on 03-04-2010
	ha it probably wasn’t really too big, it hurts every girl the first time, just give it some time and it won’t hurt as bad anymore.

alvinokd said on 03-04-2010
	no no don’t do that go out and and get you some ky massage gel only for the outside though let him work you up to size with his fingers hell it could be a bonus to you lol… no just let him work you up trying and trying with no results cause put a little damper on the relationship and i don’t think that you two want to ruin it over some thing big like that good luck!…

mchelley4 said on 03-04-2010
	Obviously your vagina doesn’t want you to have sex. Listen to it.

stormer_xxi said on 03-04-2010

He’s probably on the bigger side, and you on the smaller. Not ideal for your first time, but you will get there.
Try some lube. You should lie on you back with you legs spread and hips titlted. This way, you will be at your widest. Have him enter you with his fingers first to get you ready. Then have him slowly enter you, just a little at a time. She if can can pull out, and then do it again. You probably just need to get used to it.

Not to scare you, but you might want to see the gyno. Sometimes women can have a very narrow opening or another issue that makes sex painful. Since it was your first time, I highly doubt this was the issue. Still, the gyno can probably give you some pointers!

ibebarbie said on 03-04-2010

what you need to do is not let him force it in that really does hurt you need to just take it slow each time you go to do it just have him put it in more and more but do it often until it is no longer a problem for you why it seems to big is if you are a virgin is because your opening is not yet at the point to handle such a thing give it time youll see it wont seem to big after awhile good luck and take it slow

seanmikel said on 03-04-2010
	wow…

Good Lukeing said on 03-04-2010
	See thats why I plan on not having sex ever…………………………………….. wait a minute. Now that I think about it……THATS A TERRIBLE IDEA.